21 Signs You Need to Cut Cords with Someone

21 tell-tale signs that it's time to cut cords and stop obsessing - in close relationships and passing encounters.

by Sarah Petruno, Shamana

An energetic cord is a link that ties you to another person through words, emotions, or just plain energy exchange. While cords can be beneficial, such as those that share love between two individuals, many cords are quite detrimental and transfer low (negative) energy emotions, thoughts, or feelings. They can also perpetuate harmful relationship patterns either throughout the relationship or after it has ended.

When you cut a cord, this doesn’t necessarily mean that you cut someone out of your life entirely, though it can. Sometimes, all it means is that you cut the cord from a single, harmful encounter - with a hostile stranger or with the hurtful remark of a loved one.

How can you know when it’s time to cut cords with someone and move on with your life? Here’s a short list of signs.

21 tell-tale signs that it's time to cut cords and stop obsessing - in close relationships and passing encounters.

21 Signs You Need to Cut Cords with Someone

  1. You keep replaying bits of a conversation with someone over and over again

  2. You’re obsessing over one small thing you said in a conversation or the other person said

  3. You can’t stop thinking about an incident from earlier - same day or days before

  4. At the end of the day, your mind is filled with worry about what people think of you

  5. Your stomach hurts after a verbal or written exchange with someone

  6. You start thinking about a scenario from your past and shortly thereafter, you don’t feel well

  7. You wake up in the morning or late at night thinking of someone you haven’t thought of in a long time

  8. You’re a grown adult, and you can still hear the mean or hurtful things that your parents said to you when you were younger replaying in your mind

  9. You hold anger, resentment, or blame over someone for something they did or said, and it’s long past the time of the initial incident

  10. When you’re facing a vulnerable time, rather than being able to build yourself up with confidence, your inner mantras are replaced by the insults that you’ve heard in the past

  11. You keep trying to leave a relationship, and every time you cut things off, the other person finds a way to pop back into your mind or your life making it impossible to separate

  12. You have clingy friends or coworkers that you just can’t seem to get off your case

  13. You feel like you can’t be yourself in a relationship and as if you’re bound and restricted in what you do or say

  14. You feel angry, irritable, or anxious after an encounter with someone else, either in person, on the phone, or in written communication

  15. You suddenly start coughing up phlegm after you asserted yourself or expressed your feelings in a conversation with another person

  16. You have a friend who likes to put others down, you included, and you’ve just been hit with one of her side-remarks

  17. You fear and screen phone calls, texts, or messages from certain people who always seem to call right when you think you’ve gotten rid of them

  18. You avoid going certain places thinking that the other person might be there

  19. It makes you sick to think of a certain person or a certain situation

  20. You keep having dreams about someone or a specific scenario

  21. You feel like you’re being talked about behind your back

There you have it! Do any of these cord-cutting indicators resonate with you? If so, it may be time to cut those cords, release the ties, and MOVE. ON.

With love,


Want to remove those cords, once and for all? the Cut. It. Out! Guide to Cord Cutting eBook is designed to teach you all about cords, how they work, and how to remove them. Learn more here.

LAST UPDATED: January 11, 2016

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