How to Start Finding Your Power After Power Loss {Post 2/5}

{This is part 2 of 5 of a post series on Power Loss, where you will be guided through the process of self-power retrieval in a step by step, easy to do manner. Check back to the blog each week on SUNDAY until all 5 posts have been released. Find all posts with the tag “power loss.” Enjoy!}

Sarah Petruno

Welcome back!

In the previous post, you were asked to start contemplating and considering areas of your life where you have experienced power loss.

Today, we’re going to sink our teeth in and really identify those areas of power loss.

The purpose of this series is to help you reclaim your personal power.

The only way to get your power back is to go back in time and find out where it was lost.

Imagine this series was called “How to reclaim that red sweater you once lost” instead.

The first step in reclaiming the lost sweater, would be to find out where the heck it was and to remember where you left it OR who took it from you in the first place. That way, you could reclaim your sweater, once and for all.

So, to get your power back, the first step is remembering the events in which your power was given away OR taken away.

We all have them . . . but they’re often sneaking around in distinct, distant places.

Going all the way back to your childhood up until now, what are all the events that you can remember in which you have felt like you lost control or power over a situation?

Today’s Exercise:

Create a List.

Begin by getting out a piece of paper and something to write with.

At the top of the page, write, “Areas of my life where power has been lost.”

Carry this sheet with you and throughout the day today, think of specific or ongoing events and areas in your life where:

  • you have accidentally or unknowingly given away power
  • you’ve had it taken from you by a parent, partner, boss or stranger
  • you have a situation where a power loss is currently ongoing

All the way back to childhood until now, consider everything.

When someone tells you what you can and can’t do, that’s a way to take your power. Insults are also a way someone can take your power. Telling you what to do or how to do it, is again, a way someone can take your power.

Think of a time when you have been scolded for doing something you thought was right, and then, you felt bad for it. This is a time when your emotional power has been lost to another person. They now have power over how you feel.

Think of how you manage your own health, who makes the decisions about what’s best for you, and where the balance of power resides there. Are decisions regarding your health mostly with you, or are they with another person?

Consider a life trauma you’ve experienced in which another person was the seeming “cause” for what happened. Think about how their power was assigned over your life in this situation.

Jot down all instances of power loss, these and others like these, that you have experienced throughout your life.

Write down key players, if power was given or taken, and to whom.

In our example earlier, these are the locations of your red sweater. Identify them so you can take your sweater (your power) back later.

See you in the next post!


Other posts in the series: 

Power Loss and Why It Matters (Post 1 of 5)

How To Reclaim Your Power After Power Loss (Post 3 of 5)

How To Perform A Release Ceremony To Heal From Power Loss (Post 4 of 5)

How to Own Your Power After Power Loss (Post 5 of 5)

Last Updated: October 16, 2016