What Causes Borderline Personality Disorder?

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is characterized by extreme emotional instability, relationship instability, feelings of rejection, negative perceptions, distorted self image, fears of abandonment, anger, self-harm and frequent suicide attempts.

It’s a nightmare to those suffering and it’s notoriously difficult to treat in the western medical system if patients can find a willing therapist to work with them.

Interestingly, one of the most successful treatments, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), is heavily weighted in mindfulness and meditation techniques.

BPD sufferers are often diagnosed with accompanying mood disorders like depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder.

Summarized, BPD is the extreme feeling of the most unstable emotions, largely dominated by negative perceptions.

Beyond medical diagnoses and physical issues within the brain, there’s something else going on in the world that affects your mood and behavior, and is largely ignored by the western medical system.

It’s the intuitive experience.

The Intuitive Experience

It’s the existence of anything outside of physical, tangible, measurable numbers, data and microscope slides.

When we boil down our neurotransmitters, our brain tissue structures, our neurons, and our blood, organs, and endocrine receptors, they’re all made of molecules. And below that, of atoms, protons, neutrons, and electrons.

We’re made of sub-microscopic particles that are defined within the scientific system to have energetic fields and to carry an energetic vibration. We’re made of moving, energetic, vibrating pieces – all with different names that are classified.

We’re made of energy. 

When nerves fire, when chemical reactions occur, when neurotransmitters are released, these are all transformations of energy. Physical components may change, but energy simply shifts in the chemical or neurological reaction that is often associated with emotion or thoughts.

Thoughts, emotions, feelings, and perceptions also carry with them an energy – based on these concepts. They exist and are generated with the help of an energetic waves and vibration.

This is actually measurable in science. Neurons firing in alignment with emotional shifts can be and have been recorded as electrical current.


Energy Affects Our Thoughts and Emotions

Energy we can feel as individuals in the form of emotions.

We can feel our own emotions, absolutely. We can also feel the emotions of others.

You know this if you’ve ever been called an empath or overly sensitive.

In the intuitive world, feeling the emotions, thoughts, and perceptions of those around you, in addition to your own, is called the gift of Clairsentience, or clear feeling. 

Individuals suffering from BPD can feel the emotions of others AND they can perceive the insecurities and thoughts of others around them, then absorb them, thinking they are coming from within.

This is the intuitive gift of Clairaudience, the ability to clearly hear others.

But when it’s not acknowledged, managed or recognized, it turns into a curse, an illness or manifests as a dis-order.

BPD sufferers have a gift. 

In the case of BPD, they can clearly hear the self loathing internal mantra that others around them tell themselves, and then without knowing it, these mantras are mistaken as coming from within.

The emotions, thoughts, and feelings of others are felt and heard, and taken on as your own.

Insecurity, negative self perception, hateful self speak that comes from the minds and thoughts of others around them can be picked up on by the individual with BPD.

Extreme clairsentience (BPD) is classified as a mental illness, but really, it’s a psychic ability gone unmanaged and unchecked. 

Imagine if all day, all you heard inside your own mind and felt within your own emotional state was negative, self deprecating thoughts. Thoughts of self hate, anger, and insecurity. Coming for seemingly no reason and with no way to stop them, made exponentially worse when in the presence of others.

Borderline personality suffers absorb, take on, and integrate into their world all the negative, awful, self criticizing thoughts that other people around them carry within their own mind.

Why only negative thoughts and emotions, though? 

Sadly, the thoughts and emotions that fill the minds and emotional experiences of others tends to be more of the negative, self loathing kind.

And not only that, but those who suffer from BPD tend to have a history and a background of a childhood and adolescence of instability and around those who spoke criticism and judgment to them and around them, planting the seed within the BPD sufferer for these types of thoughts to dwell and grow. Then, once this type of environment and space for thoughts like this to grow exists within the individual, those are the types of thoughts that fill the space. More and more thoughts of criticism, judgment, and feelings of being unlovable.

It is often thought that BPD sufferers have heightened empathetic ability, due to their survival need of interpreting the emotions of those around them for their own safety in childhood. For example, it would behoove a child to develop heightened emotional sensitivity for those around them, in order to help predict the behaviors and thoughts of their parents, to make sure to stay out of the way to avoid an abusive interaction.

Only now, an adult BPD sufferer is no longer in need of this once useful heightened ability, and without a use, the ability operates by itself – unchecked and unmanaged.

This is why relationships, crowds, and public spaces can be difficult.

Individuals with BPD can feel and internalize the thoughts and feelings of those around them. Less so, are those around them thinking judgmental thoughts about the individual with BPD, and more so, are they thinking self critical and judgmental thoughts about themselves that then become perceived as directed at the individual with BPD.

With no clear treatment plans and poor understanding of BPD in the medical system, it's time to explore a different angle and new strategies. Discover the true cause of BPD and get some tips to manage and cope with your ability. 

What is BPD really? 

Borderline personality is literally a personality disorder – of other people. It’s the ability of the individual to pick up on the negative, self loathing, and judgmental qualities that those around them carry within their own personality and then internalize them as their own.

Its instability is because emotions of everyone around them are constantly changing. 

It’s the ability to feel the emotions and thoughts of others through the electrical signal and energy they carry. It’s the psychic ability of clairsentience or clear feeling gone unchecked and bolstered by a childhood and adolescence of negative emotion and criticism.

And not surprisingly, BPD is often accompanied by depression and anxiety, two conditions which also largely hinge on the ability to feel, perceive, and sense the emotions of those around them.

Borderline personality disorder, the medical diagnosis, arises from the ability to feel, perceive, and internalize the emotions, thoughts, and feelings of others, largely only the self loathing, critical, and worry filled ones.

The primary treatment for BPD is called Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, a therapy type the encourages mindful awareness and meditation.

A method based in thousands of years of spiritual practice.

Mindful awareness and meditation helps the individual gain control of their emotional experience and release negative perceptions, separating self from not-self.

These practices work because they help release the emotions and thoughts of others and bring individuals to a state of calm, groundedness in the present moment, free from all outside influences.

Healing from BPD requires healing of past traumas that planted the seed of criticism, and in the present, learning to come to a place of presence in the moment, releasing all emotions and thoughts that causing harm to your well-being.

How can you start? 

Begin by learning to ground yourself, and then, by learning how to clear and release energy (emotions and thoughts) that are no longer in your best interest.

Once these two steps are mastered, it can help to go beyond and learn more about your interactions with others and how, energetically, they can contribute to your emotional wellbeing.

Learning more about your intuitive gifts can also go a long way towards transforming your life. This blog and this one by Amanda Linette Meder, Psychic Medium, my sister, are great places to start.

With love,

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LAST UPDATED: April 5, 2015