Why Do Children Have Imaginary Friends?

I was at the local U-pick orchard with my sister and my daughter waiting in the checkout line when it happened.

As I waited to pay for our ice cream, I heard, a father ask the mother of his daughter,

“What’s wrong with her?”

Their 5-6 year old daughter was mid-tantrum laying on the ground face down.

Her mom rolled her eyes, and said, “Oh. . .she’s upset that her imaginary friend ran away.”

Then, turning to the daughter, the mother laughed, attempted to feign concern, and sarcastically asked her daughter, “Where did your imaginary friend go?”

In that moment, clairvoyantly in my mind, I saw a long-haired Earthbound spirit girl, also about 6 years old, running back into the orchard farm store and away from her physical world friend.

That little girl’s friend really did run away – I could see it happening.

And her parents were laughing at her.

In 99% of cases, imaginary friends are only “imaginary” in that parents can’t see them.

Imaginary friends, most of the time, are Spirit, ghost children that living children can see and interact with.

They aren’t made up, they aren’t imaginary, they are 100% real. But, most adults can’t actually see them.

There’s no psychological problem here or something wrong with a child that has imaginary friends, in fact, it’s completely normal. You can read more about the why of this here.

It’s normal for a child to have “imaginary” friends because most children can see spirits.

Their ability to verbalize this happens around the age of two, with the mention of monsters and the like, and tends to wane around ages 8-10 if their environment is not supportive of this ability.

Meaning, if the adults and other people in their environment tell them that their friends aren’t real, that there are no monsters in their closet, and there’s no scary man standing in the hallway.

Real, real, and more than real.

If their support system continues to shut them down and tell them that what they’re experiencing isn’t real, their brain starts to believe it isn’t real.

And it shuts down their ability to see all types of things – from spirits to fairies (also real).

Little kids have imaginary friends because they haven’t had enough exposure to other people telling them that their friends are imaginary and made up.

Their imaginary friends are real-deal ghosts, spirits, and other individuals that adults consider make believe that very much do exist in the unseen spiritual world.

Just because we can’t see it, doesn’t make it not real.

After all, we can’t see love, and that doesn’t make its existence any less real.

LAST UPDATED: November 18, 2015