POST 1: What Power Loss Is and Why It Matters
In the previous post, you were asked to start contemplating and considering areas of your life where you have experienced power loss.
If you haven't done that, stop. Stop reading this post, go back to the last post, and think about AND write down areas of your life where you've given power away. It doesn't need to be super specific just yet, because that's what we're doing today. You just need to write down like 1-3 word phrases like, "my daughter's birth," or "at work," or whatever.
Today, we’re going to dig deep and really start to identify those areas of power loss.
The purpose of this series is to help you reclaim your personal power.
The only way to get your power back is to go back in time and find out where it was lost, and bring it back. That's the shamanic way of doing it. So, we have to know where exactly and specifically you lost your power.
Imagine this series was called “How to start finding that red sweater you lost” instead.
The first step in finding the lost sweater, would be to try to remember where you left it or who took it, right?
So, to get your power back, the first step is remembering the events in which your power was given away (or taken, depending on the circumstances)
But it's time to ask yourself, specifically, what are all the events that you can remember in which you have felt like you lost control or power over a situation?
What have you given outside control of your life to? Where and in which specific areas of your life have you relinquished power?
Take a few days to think about it if you need to. But you need to. That is key. You need to identify where and to whom/what you've given power.
Think of EXTERNAL influences to your current challenges. Have you given them power, and if so, how much?
So that brings us to today's exercise in reclaiming your power:
Create a List.
Begin by getting out a piece of paper and something to write with. Or using the notes app on your phone.
At the top of the page, write, “Areas of my life where I've given power away." Yes, it might seem harsh. Do it anyway. You're taking personal responsibility in co-creating these experiences. Whether or not you meant to doesn't matter, remember.
Carry this sheet with you and throughout the day today (or have the notes app open), and think of specific or ongoing events and areas in your life where:
- you have accidentally or unknowingly given away power
- you've had it taken from you by a parent, partner, boss or stranger.
- you have been in a situation in which you were victimized
- you have a situation where a power loss is currently ongoing
- All the way back to childhood until now, consider everything.
Think of a time when you have been scolded for doing something you thought was right, and then, you felt bad for it. This is a time when your emotional power has been lost to another person. They now have power over how you feel.
Think of how you manage your own health, who makes the decisions about what’s best for you, and where the balance of power resides there. Are decisions regarding your health in your court or are they with another person?
Consider a life trauma you’ve experienced in which another person was the perpetrator of the trauma. Think about how this trauma has been processed and how their power was assigned over your life in this situation.
Jot down all instances of power loss, these and others like these, that you have experienced throughout your life.
Write down as many details as you remember and how the power was lost.